Waiting for kids.....

I may have posted about this already and if I have, I apologize!!!!!

But, as the title states, I am waiting to even have kids. Actually waiting to even start TRYING for kids for at least 6 years.

Crazy? Maybe. Smart? For me it is. I know that I want to be a mother. But being a mother is not what I want to concentrate on being right now. I want to work on my soon to be marriage first...THEN having kids.

I want to work on being a great wife to my husband. I want to travel (selfish, to some it might be), and I want to go back to school and get a degree...maybe nursing???

I want to better myself first and foremost. I want to have a career in something and still be a mother and housewife!!! What if I'm a stay at home mama and a housewife and all of a sudden I end up getting a divorce??! I'll need a career to fall back on for that. What if we run out of money and I have to go back to work? I'll need a degree/career of some sort for that. Yes I want to do BOTH. Both meaning stay at home mother/wife AND have a degree to fall back on for a career!!!!!

It seems like to me that alot of women think that they can't be good mother's if they work...I say that you can!!! It also seems like that being a stay at home mother/wife is expected of them...it shouldn't be!!! You shouldn't feel like you are expected to be one....only if you want to be one.

I want to be one if, and only IF, my and my husband's finances are secure enough...i.e. him being able to make enough money to support me, him, AND a child. If not, then I will be continuing to work, either full time or part time. It all depends on what his job is (he went to culinary school).

Eventually, I will be able to get onto his insurance and off of mine. But for now, I am keeping mine. Hopefully, he can come off of his and come onto mine for a while...or at least until he gets a better job. That way he can make more money for bills and stuff. I get paid every 2 weeks and insurance comes directly out of my check. So I don't miss it and I don't have to worry about having to send a check in every month along with rent, water, and power.

Semi Homemaker: Cleaning

Cleaning...it's never ending.


Laundry is the same way. I'm actually multi tasking now as I typed this out.


Eating lunch, folding 3 loads of clothes, AND cleaning up. :-/ Oh....and washing dishes as well!!! 


Thank goodness that I don't have children right now. Not sure how mother's do it!!! They get an award for being totally awesome at doing what they do best...being a full time homemaker and mother!!!!!


How on earth can yall do it all??!

Possible New Job For the Hubs

So...the hubs may have a new job soon.

Fingers crossed that he get's it. He's already had a couple of interveiw's and they both look promising. Promising to the point where they gave him a tour, talked to him about orders, how he would cook certain things and what side items he'd put with it, and 401k's. Soooo, it really looks promising.

I've gotten my hope's extremly high with other job opprotunity's that he's had in the past and those have all fallen through. It seems like mine are high yet again, but I'm trying to keep them down to a minimum.

Used to, I'd tell him that I thought it would be nice if he could have a better job so he wouldn't have to worry all the time about money and everything else. Now that we are getting married and starting a life together, it's more like I NEED him to have a better paying job to help bring in more money....he needs a STEADY paycheck.

Right now, I have the steady paycheck. I can come home with 600-800 every 2 weeks. The majority of the bills come out of my pay. It's good for now, but we could use the money to put away for a down payment for a house.

If and when he get's the new job, half of my money will be put away in savings to use as a down payment of a house. I get payed every 2 weeks, where he will get payed monthly. I'm bi-weekly and he will be salary. That's how our checks will be like...one check every 2 weeks and the other check once a month.

Seeing as how the apartment is in BOTH names, he and I will split that up somehow. The water comes in his name (not sure why), so we will take turns paying that. The power bill is in my name, so I can pay for that. Internet is in his name, so he pays for that. Charter cable is included in our monthly rent.

Right now, he adds his half of the rent to my account and then rent comes completly out of my account. His half goes in BEFORE I write a check for the rent. That way, there's still more than enough money in there.

But our plan, for now, is working out ok. We have been able to stay afloat pretty good.