My thoughts as of now

So my thoughts of living together vs not and having sex before marriage vs not.

Living together vs not--If you want my opinion, I think that it's the wisest decision that anyone can make. You learn what the other person is all about. You learn how THEY live and how THEY clean. You learn more than you probably want to know about someone. But you learn wether to stick it out or go your sepreate ways...even if you are engaged. For me, my husband and I moved in together about a year after we got engaged to each other. I have had my moments of ups and downs with living together before marriage. But it was truly the best experience that I have ever had. I wouldn't have changed that experience for the world. It helped us both understand each other for the best. We had arguments (and still do) over stupid stuff. You WILL argue!!! It's normal!!!!!!

Now for sex before marriage. I still struggle with some guilt because of it. I was always raised (and took an oath) that I wouldn't have sex before marriage. At 24, I lost it to someone who was NOT my husband (we hadn't met at the time of said lost virginity). We met a couple months later, thank God. Anyways, it's good to remain a virgin until you find your life long mate....or at least until you become engaged to them. Once that happens, then I feel like you should have sex and go ahead and learn how they are in bed. But don't critize how they are in bed while still in said bed. Discuss it later. Learn what each other does and does not like sexually. What does and does not turn the other on. Make sure that you learn each other!!!! It helps I promise.